Anecdotes vs a much larger sample size. While dating is a good time to get to know someone, if you are young it is better to go on group dates. I feel very sad sometimes but I try to stay strong. The fact that she's planning to go on a mission should help. And if you do belong to a ward full of cretins, you must do everyone a favor and just ignore them until they go extinct. I feel a sense of freedom would come with it, but I am also afraid of what this could mean for us in the long run. You won't know this until you do it and that is really important information to get before a marriage contract.
But God works in mysterious ways. There's this fantasy perpetuated in the religion that if you're good and pure enough, that any man you meet would eventually see the truth and join the church for you. A Mormon will tearfully and emotionally recite whichever lesson they need at the given moment.
Well if she knew or ever found out, in her eyes you'll be a loathsome perverted deviant in need of sex addiction counseling. And you are right about people telling you that you are lucky that you married a doctor and should not complain. Her beliefs are innocous but ultimately a death sentence for this relationship. Honestly, I have given up on lds men as a single 25 year old. It's gonna hurt, and it's gonna break her heart, but much less so than waiting until you've both committed to each other and start discussing your future together. Where does that leave me. Harmony will prevail if the husband appreciates the value of church service and attendance. I know many other nurses that also married young docs, only to have the marriage fail. It's so sad to think that people so young will be stuck wearing 19th century undies when they should enjoy their years of being young and stylish.
After a certain point "support" stops being supportive and turns into enabling - enabling of his depression, his anxiety, his reluctance to reflect deeply on who he is and what he wants out of life, and worst of all, my "support" ensures his continuation into a career that will not ultimately make him or me happy. As a man who married a non-Mormon woman, my story has a slightly different view point, but it comes down to essentially the same principles. Now look at the flip side в if he loves you, and realizes you fully believe, how will he deal with the importance of the temple to you. We try to make this place a little better than we found it. We have 3 children and have now been married 17 years I have been a single mother for yearsthere life is the hospital. I know residency is particularly bad, but what about when he finishes that. Make sure everyone involved is a couple, or at least is paired with someone. I often feel it's harder than being a single mom because the false hope is just torture. If this happens, it might click something in her mind that says that what she experienced was pleasurable and she would like to have it again.